The other night I was watching the news (which really is a bad habit of mine) and they previewed a segment about parenting. Being a parent, I went against my better judgment and stuck around to watch.
“Studies show that snuggling with your baby makes it more loving.”
It went on to say:
“Research also says that children who grow up in households that aren’t as loving become emotionally distant adults.”
I’ve been a mom for 17 months. While I am certainly not the most knowledgeable parent ever, I’m pretty sure that I’ve gained some insight to how babies work. After all, I’ve conquered every breastfeeding woe imaginable, I can use ASL to sign a ton and a half “words around the house”, and I got The Monkey to walk by bribing him with a Ginormous Elmo. I’d like to think that the last year and a half has left me somewhat versed in childrearing.
I do not need a study to tell me to cuddle my son. And it concerns me to think that there are people who do a need a study to tell them that, although I can certainly think of people who probably didn’t think that Love + Affection = Well adjusted, emotionally stable children.
I’m really not a huge fan of “scientific studies” to begin with. For instance, when the AAP came out with it’s findings that promoted pacifier use among st other things, I quickly looked to see who was sponsoring the study. I wasn’t surprised to see the likes of Nestle on that list, and it put the whole study in a new light for me.
I don’t even know where I was going with this. I really do need to stop watching the news though, because it drives me seriously batty. Well anyways, to the parents out there, if you didn’t already know, love your kids, apparently it’s good for them.
It’s really scary but…. there are people that need to be reminded of these things. Actually, someone seeing this on TV and saying “Oh my God, I haven’t been cuddling my kid!” is probably not going to happen. They more than likely would need a 2X4 smack against the side of the head to make them realize the error of their ways.
Yeah, obvious idiot instructions are a product of American society… don’t let it get to you. You’ve obviously already gotten the right idea.
lol i agree that noone needs a study on how to raise ur children :P i dont have kids yet but i think ive read and been around kids enough to know whats right too :P
I always watch the news and it drives me batty as well. I completely agree with you, who needs studies to tell them to love and cuddle their children? I’m not a mother, but that would be common sense.
Hmm I don’t know if I was cuddled as much as I should have been. I’m not as stable as I would like to be emotionally…
I’m sure that there is more to ‘households that aren’t as loving’ than mere cuddling. =) Like you said, love and affection, but there are many ways to go about that. =)
Oh, I hate the news!! I hear you about the “loving” part. I know you are a good mom and you will do anything for your son. :) Love your site! ;)
Yeah everybody keep telling me that, think i’m gonna use it :) I installed it before and it was fairly easy ^^.
thanks for the comment!
You have a kid?
*checks bio*
Hey wait, I know you… Have we slept together?
HAHHAHAAH *kiss* I love you baby!
see its parents like that who freak me out; how could you not love on your kids? and you know how in studies they always have both ends of the extreme- you cant love them too much but you have to love them just enough. it makes it seem like a lot harder job than it probably really is! ;)
I totally agree!! If someone needs to be told to love and give their child affection - they shouldn’t be parents!!
It’s just common sense to love your child!
Study’s that researchers do these days seem to be about nothingness. They almost seem pointless (some of them).
LOL.. I love John’s comment. You two are too cute!
It’s really really sad that people would have to conduct a study to come up with that and even sadder that parents would need to be told that.
That “study” was so unnecessary. But then again there are people who need this kind of thing to justify themselves as “good” parents. It’s sad but true. Some people just shouldnt be parents on the other hand.
When it comes to parenthood, somehow I believe that it is supposed to be a basic maternal instinct. After all, every child is different and so they react differently to a certain way of upbringing. Going by the book to learn how to look after a child will not seem as though “you” are the parent, but rather, the book. So it’s best for a parent to bring the child up in his/her own natural way. ^^.
I think thats crazy. I agree with the fact that it’s good to love your child and that you need to and stuff but I dont agree that ALL children who arent loved at home become distant adults. maybe distant children but you can be loved by friends and by yourself and their is a chance of you rebeling and deciding to be more loving because you werent loved and you dont want anyone to be unloved themselves. The whole research thing was completly unessecary and I dont think it affected anyone.
Hm. Well, I don’t know. Different people think differently, and there are some who aren’t as bright as others.
Gee, who would have thought? Sometimes I wonder why they waste money on shit like that. I can’t believe that some parents wouldn’t want to cuddle their children anyway. I don’t even have kids and I LOVE cuddling with my nephews and niece. Sometimes you really have to wonder.
I agree with you. The world expect everything and everyone to be the same, innocent people where we’re all grains of sand where everything is similar. Silly…
And I bet my tax euros are paying for utterly redundant studies like this one. Though the cynical part of me actually believes that there must be people out there who were mystified when they heard the results.
Dang that’s kinda sad in a way that these people feel the need to make a study about love and affection. DUH like do we really need to be told that? I don’t have children and I can tell you that’s a big DUH. Well, I guess there are enough stupid parents in this world that need that advice I suppose. I’m glad to hear you’ve got a sold head on your shoulders :)
I completely agree with you. Why do they think they need to waste time on studies when we already know what is right and wrong for our kids. I may not do things by the book, but my son is still going to grow up the right way. I don’t need someone else telling me what to do.
excellent post~!!! you would be surprised girl at the amount of people that NEED a study to tell them to hug their children. amazing. don’t get me started on the AAP , pacifiers, or vaccinations, lmao